Do you need the right tool?
No, I go into contact!
Well-available „tools“ are important in coaching.
This was the tenor of a comment on my article last Wednesday.
Thus, a comment on my post last Wednesday.
That is undoubtedly true for professionals who work with materials. It is also true for coaches that experienced people can be more effective than beginners.
So far, so good!
Why do I resist the ‚use‘ of ‚tools‘ or ‚instruments‘ in coaching?
I think I am not dealing with problems to be solved by hand. Instead, my work as a coach extends to the intricate web of relationships between coachees, their dreams and fears, the people and organisations around them, the history they come from, and the future they see ahead of them.
If I dissect this web of relationships like a mechanic or dissect it like a surgeon, I destroy it.
My only chance to perceive what is going on with my coachee and his world is to engage as a person in a relationship with him and his world. It is also the most crucial channel through which I can give development impulses.
That sounds simple, but it is demanding!
It also sounds complicated, but it can be trained!
I can learn how to work with relationships through a guided examination of my own person and its interconnections.
That is my idea of how to train coaches.
And yes, coaches‘ behavioural habits are described in detail in the literature, in conversations or actions, which have proven helpful for relationship building. In the literature, they are called methods.
I avoid this term and reject the concept of a tool in dealing with people because it belongs to the world of mechanics.
People, however, are biological systems with the ability to speak, love and suffer.
What I am concerned with here is a fundamental attitude of value!